Letting Go and Taking the Test


My older son first wanted to take community college courses in fall 2012. He refused and procrastinated on taking the entrance placement exam so he could not enroll. Ditto for spring 2013.

When I found out that the enrollment cut-off for dual credit was June 15 not August 15, for the fall 2013 semester, I realized we needed to get moving. I heard about the deadline on a local homeschool support group chat list in mid-April.

We met with the dual credit admissions counselor. She was really friendly and explained the process thoroughly.

I told my son about this and he did not want to take the test. Again. I said, that's it, if you want to take the classes (which he does) you must take the test. Period. Just take the test. Get it over with.

Now here is where the imperfection begins, and where the letting go begins.

First, I pulled out the test prep review book. The next day my son went over some in the "writing" section (focus is on English language and grammar, the essay is a different test). He spent an hour on it and said, "I can't do this test, I don't want to do this review or take the test."

He agreed to take the free, three hour test prep class, which is offered once a week, so that appointment was made. He came out of the class saying he felt he would pass it. He was beaming with self-confidence. He came out with some notes and websites to use for practice tests. He never did them. He had a few websites to review core concepts. He never read them. He had a short list of math concepts he felt he was rusty on. He never reviewed them.

I taught my son to write a persuasive essay. We did this for the first time last spring when he wrote essay one for this test prep. He has not written one since.  So then I sat him down and made him write essay two and the next day he read it over and I gave him ideas on how to edit it. We used a grading rubric for this specific test to review the essay. On day three he began writing essay three. He refused to edit it after that. (Due to my son's learning disabilities he has pushed off and fought me about doing writing composition. I didn't know the LDs were the issue, I thought he was being lazy or stubborn, or both.)

The date of the test was open, there was flexibility. Since my son was basically not prepping or reviewing material I gave up and just scheduled the test.

We met with the disabilities office and accommodations for a private room and to split the four tests over two days instead of mandating all four be done in a five hour time slot. The essay was to be written on the computer, so that was not an accommodation we had to ask for. The test was untimed, so the issue of asking for extra time didn't need to be addressed. The test was also self-correcting and it edited along the way so it would stop the test when the student got a certain number wrong to indicate their level, so he did not have to do a big long test and sap his brain of energy doing a bunch of questions that were over his head. That helped him.

So the date loomed and my son was doing nothing to prepare. I got worried. I stopped asking and nagging. I decided to just have the chips fall where they may. Do or die. If he chose to not prep, and he had to take three semesters of remedial English, or two, or one, then so be it. He chose that path.

It was hard to step back and to let it happen the way he wanted, but I did it. I kept telling myself that he has to take responsibility for his actions or for his non-actions and to just step back and see what happens.

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

Popular Posts